Parental Blessing 101

New to our community, parents will have the opportunity to write their own blessings to their child. This is a space to share your hopes and dreams for your family as you go through the Bnei Mitzvah process, for it’s an opportunity for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah to grow AND for you to grow as a parent.  Here’s an example of a parental blessing by Rabbi Sandy Eisenberg Sasso

What I wish for my child
I wish for all our children.
I wish for you to be a
person of character
strong but not tough
gentle but not weak.
I wish for you to be
righteous but not self-righteous
honest but not unforgiving.
Wherever you journey, may your steps be firm
and may you walk in just paths
and not be afraid.
Whenever you speak, may your words
be words of wisdom and friendship.
May your hands build
and your heart preserve what is good
and beautiful in our world.
May the voices of the generations of our people
move through you
and may the God of our ancestors
Be your God as well.
May you know that there is a people,
a rich heritage, to which you belong
and from that sacred place
you are connected to all who dwell on the earth.
May the stories of our people
be upon your heart
and the grace of the Torah rhythm
dance in your soul
Rabbi Sandy Eisenberg Sasso


Parental Blessings at the Jacksonville Jewish Center:

Parental Prayer for Jennifer Gordon

With tremendous joy and pride;

In the presence of God, friends, family, clergy and congregation;

Yaffa Rachel we offer this prayer for you:

May the light in your eyes shine upon the path that you choose to follow.

May the kindness in your heart radiate to those around you.

May you use your beautiful voice to sing praises to G d.

May your sensitivity to others less fortunate compel you to act on their behalf in the spirit of Tikkun Olam, repair of the world.

May your love of learning inspire you to seek knowledge and engage in the exploration of Torah.

May your passion and enthusiasm propel you to spread joy and hope and possibility to those whose lives you touch.

May your self-confidence and determination fortify you in times of uncertainty.

May you take the gifts and talents that you have been given and make the world a better place for all.

May you always remember this special day and cherish the memory of your Jewish ancestors who came before you and made it possible for you to stand here today with pride in being a Bat Mitzvah.

Prayer for Avichai Lubliner


Ribbono shel Olam, Source of creation, at this moment we stand with Avichai before your Torah as once our ancestors stood at Sinai.  In the prism of sacred time, we hear the echo of countless generations through our son’s music.

Grateful for the gift of his life, we are thankful for the opportunity to partner with You in raising him to this day.  No task in our lives has been holier, more special, more challenging or more meaningful.  We are filled with awe and wonder, humility and joy for the privilege of parenting.

You, Avichai, are God’s gift to all our ancestors.  Nameless though most of them are to us today, their commitment to Judaism is the reason we are here.  You are the harvest of seeds sown centuries ago.

You, Avichai, are a gift from God to our family, our community, the planet on which we liveRaised in a tradition that believes that every human being counts, you have the power to make a real difference.

God has also given you priceless gifts: the gift of a heritage; the blessing of a caring community; the gift of being created in the Divine image. May you always realize how precious you are in God’s eyes.

At this threshold between the past and the future, we acknowledge that our son is changing and growing before our eyes.  Today we sit with the congregation, while You, Avichai, stand alone on the bimah.  You sing, pray, speak.  We listen.

You are infinitely more than a work sculpted by others.  You have words and thoughts of your own; a creative spark that belongs uniquely to you.  You are ours, but also your own.

Called to the Torah, your name and ours are interwoven.  You are not us, we are not you.  Yet even blessed by the space between us we remain inseparable, joined by a love that will never waver nor diminish with the passage of time.

Barukh atah Adonai, Eloheinu melekh ha-olam she-p’taranu me-onsho shel zeh.

Praised are You, Adonai our God, who rules the universe, who helps parents empower their children to accept responsibility for their own lives.


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